Probably the most effective technique I have used as a entrepreneur to accomplish my goals which sometimes pushed other people’s limits has been the preference technique.  Instead of saying, “This is what I want you to do” or “This is what I need,” the wording is:  “I would prefer that you would do …” or “I would prefer to receive my payment in ___ form, please.”  I have found I can maintain my confidence & inspiration and allow the other person their freedom to feel good about helping out.  Try it!   It works great in personal relationships too!  Anyone else tried it?

We have been removing the E in a unique and effective way:  release internal pressures.  Roadblocks are so often only in our own mind – our perception.  Letting go of  “I can’t” and allowing the idea of  “I can” is often as powerful as the crane removing the obstacle to your success.  As Buddha put it:  Success is not the way to happiness.  Happiness is the way to success.

Go Power Point #12:

Never let go of your integrity.  It is vital to keeping the ‘E’go in balance. 

Take the E out of Ego and GO!  by Jerry and Donna Govan

Removing Roadblocks to Success with powerful secrets to prosperity, relationships, healing  and FUN!

Takng the E out of ego means taking out the negative emotion, but leaving in the positive emotion.  It’s like in conversation, asking about the other person and really listening is as important as telling your story.  Having both keeps positive emotion which is ego with the small “e.”

A healthy ego is sensitive.  A sensitivity to people and the feelings we are picking up around and from within us is necessary for a healthy ego.  Can you remember when you felt there was something coming between you and a friend or person in a conversation?  Sometimes it is too much Ego and sometimes not enough (they want to hear about you!) .  It’s like walking in their shoes and your own at the same time.  We are all sensitive.  We just need to recognize it.

Go Power Point #23:

Watch for the clues of where not to go and…don’t go there.  Trust your hunches. 

Take the E out of Ego and GO!  by Jerry and Donna Govan

Removing Roadblocks to Success with powerful secrets to prosperity, relationships, healing  and FUN!

Hi everyone,

Some people, mostly mothers and fathers are really happy about school starting again – for the kids.  But what about the fact that we are all back to school every morning.  Is there a day you can remember that you have not had to learn something new?  I can tell you that since writing this book, and getting it published and now marketing it, I have been learning more than the kids in school for sure!  Learning blogging, social networking, new business contact managers – you name it.  The kids want to finish school and get out, we want to learn faster what they already know! So, it really helps to keep our ego out of the way, so we can learn fast, so as the world changes we are in the flow! No roadblocks here!.

Getting over Ego is of course easier said than done.  Our clue for the day is:  look for what is similar in two apparently opposing “You should have…”  and “Well, you could have…”. Once you find what is similar, the differences don’t look so huge, and the egos so much to “gain.”   For example:  Interruptions. What is similar:  getting a job done.  Try using the preference technique:  “I would prefer that you would bring in all my messages for each hour at one time, please.”  “Ok, now I understand how to be effective, thank you.”

We have found that sensitivity has more to do with  how we act and respond to another person’s ego than we might think.

For instance, if someone challenges you, you may automatically respond to meet the challenge.  If someone comes on with a puffed up Ego, we may tend to puff up and tell our story.  With sensitivity, we can tune into the intent BEHIND a comment and DECIDE  our response.  For instance if the comment seems to be self-serving, we can choose to give the preson some supportive credit instead of trumping up a comment about ourselves.  Sensitivity tends to inspire maturity.  What do you think?

If nothing is working – fire your scriptwriter!  In other words, make a change in your intention.

It’s our awareness that other people’s points of view are also valuable which keeps us from the an ego trip that our way is the only (or at least best) way.  What tricks have you found to keep your ego out of your own way?

Avoid having your ego so close to your position that when your position falls, your ego goes with it.
Colin Powell

Take the balanced Ego quiz:  1) Do you listen as much in a conversation as you share?   2)  Can you keep your emotions out of the conversation and truly listen to yourself and others?  3)  Do you arrange for win-win situations in your interactions?  If you can answer yes to all of these questions, you are in the Ego-less, the more balanced Ego pattern.

None of us is as smart as all of us.

Kenneth Blanchard, author of One Minute Manager